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Question: This question is based upon a question that appeared in the "New York Times" magazine column "The Ethicist." The South Korean ferry tragedy evoked the maxim that the captain should go down with the ship. While, the captain has the duty to ensure the safety of the passengers and do everything in his power to save lives, should he be morally obligated to effectively commit suicide because he made a mistake?
He or she would only need to stay on board as long as there was a reasonable expectation that their expertise might help save lives
Once that moment passed he or she need not give up their lives for nothing
“Reasonable” in this context does not mean a more than 50% chance of success
but there must be a substantial likelihood (say 25% or so) that something positive will occur
There are many sources on this
One of the most famous is Ezekiel Landau’s (the Nodeh Beyehudah’s) response on hunting in which he says that sport hunting is prohibited as too dangerous while if it is the persons profession he may hunt for a living
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Question: According to Jewish values, are we allowed to breed dogs for money?
There is no prohibition or hesitation in Jewish law about breeding dogs as long as they are treated humanely and as long as people are kept safe from the dogs
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Question: If a Jewish woman becomes pregnant using eggs donated from a non-Jewish woman, is the child considered Jewish or not Jewish? Who is the "real" mother, in terms of matrilineal descent - the woman who donated the genetic material or the woman who carried and delivered the baby? What about the possibility that was raised recently of combing the DNA of two women to avoid genetic diseases - how would that be seen? What does Judaism have to say about this?
the earliest responsa on this topic took the position that the woman in whose body the baby grew and who provided the nourishment for the child is the mother for all things
that would be true regardless of how many DNA donors
recently the chief Rabbi of Israel and some others have said that it is the genetic mother who is the mother
I do not believe they have dealt with the question of multiple donors though the possibility of multiple mothers does exist in the literature
At present this is seen as adebate and so regardless of who is Jewish and who is not the baby is converted as a matter of doubt
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Question: What is the Jewish response to this question in the "New York Times Magazine" Ethicist column, May 19, 2013? It is common practice to decline to give colleagues and students a reference if one has nothing positive to say about them. When someone looks good on paper but is less competent in real life, is it ethical to act against someone to ensure that the work goes to someone who is a better fit?
[There are related questions at:
http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=31
http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=354.]
First Jews do not impose Jewish law on gentiles except in very limited contexts called the 7 Noahide laws which deal with things like murder and theft
We consider it disrespectful to tell others how to run their lives except for certain basic societal norms necessary for civilization to exist
Even within a Jewish state while there is great emphasis on reducing or eliminating poverty that is often more a local government concern than an overarching act of the national government possibly because it was felt that local governments were able to respond more appropriately to people's needs
Third the formulation suggests opposition noy just to poverty which is fine, but also to wealth
Judaism does not oppose wealth if iot is gained legitimately
For sources and further discussion see Aaron Levine's seminal Free Enterprise in Jewish Law
Certainly charity giving, tithing, responding to needs that arise is required
But not with an attitude that suggests that being wealthy is a problem that needs to be solved
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Question: Currently I am in the process of finding an Orthodox Rabbi to sponsor me for conversion, but I heard that the Chief Rabbinate of Israel only accepts Orthodox conversions that were done with Rabbis recognized by Israel. I visited the Rabbinical Council Of America and clicked on the Conversion to Judaism tab, and it provided very useful information, but I want to know where can I find a recognized sponsoring Rabbi in the State of Maryland.
For ALL DENOMINATIONS: Can I convert with anyone (Orhodox or other) not approved by the Israeli rabbinate, if I convert in the US? Will that conversion be accepted in Israel?
[Administrator's note: A similar question is found on Jewish Values Online at question 848 which you can find by searching for Chief Rabbi in Israel, or entering link "http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=848" in your browser]
You have actually reached the head of the conversion committee of the RCA
Our conversions are recognized by the Chief Rabbinate in Israel
We can certainly help any sincere candidate
check the RCA site and contact R Michoel Zylberman the administrator of the program
He will probably direct you to me \or you could call me directly at 202 258 5172
If you convert outside the RCA in America our policy is that we may or may not stand behind such a conversion
also there are some non-RCA courts that are accepted in Israel and some that are not
Good Luck
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Question: How should someone in the modern world fulfill the mitzvah for every Jew to write his own Torah scroll? If it's figurative or outdated, what's the modern-day equivalent? If one fulfills it literally, by commissioning or writing a Torah, can the Torah be donated or loaned to a synagogue, or must one retain ownership of one's Torah?
If you can afford it you can pay a sofer to write one
if not writing or arranging for one letter or arranging for fixing one letter is enough
you can donate or loan the Torah
Good Luck
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Question: Does the mitzvah of pidyon shvuyim (redeeming captives) affect the way we look at prisoner exchanges? Does the mitzvah require us to do everything we can to redeem a captive, or are there limits?
But nowadays most of those who would be sent back by the West can be presumed to be dangerous to people's lives in our countries once they return
Hence there are serious limitations in Jewish law on such exchanges
Also the Mishna in Gittin precludes trading hostages for more than their value
that usually neans no more than a one to one swap
All of that having been said we still must understand the powerful emotions pushing to get people back at all costs
that doesnt make it right
but it makes it more understandable
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Question: I wanted to ask if it is okay for an observant (e.g. Orthodox) Jew to watch TV and use the internet (my internet browser does have a filter on it). I watch TV, but am careful with what I watch, as I don't want to watch series or movies that are inappropriate for any reason (vile language or other things). But is it against Jewish law to watch TV and use the internet? I ask because I know there are (ultra) Orthodox Jews who are completely against it. What does Judaism say? Thanks in advance for answering!
At this point since there has been very little success actually curing anyone with stem cells so that its value is in its potential using stem cells from unclaimed frozen embryos after 5 years is fine
If the fetus is still viable that would be somewhat more problematic and aborting a fetus for the stem cells would be forbidden
Things may change as the science progresses
meaning if people's lives are saved the stance will potentially be more lenient
on the other hand if it is shown that adult stem cells can do the job as well or even better then the position will become more restrictive
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Question: What kind of rules and customs do we have about ner tamid (eternal light) in a synagogue? Should it certainly hang from a ceiling or is it also kosher (acceptable) to put it on a top of the aron kodesh (Ark)?
The Ner Tamid in our synagogues is only a symbolic representation
There are really no rules as to its location or shape
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Question: From a Jewish perspective, is there anything wrong with attending a Mardi Gras celebration? Administrators Note: For answers to a somewhat similar question regarding Halloween, see on the JVO website http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=319].
Mardi Gras (or Fat Tuesday) serves as a celebration before the aescetic period of Lent that begins on Ash Wednesday.
As such its Christologic associations are obvious and problematic.
Also the behaviors often associated with Mardi Gras in, for example, New Orleans, its home base in America, are not those that Judaism traditionally embraces (to say the least).
Celebrating Purim instead would seem to be a better idea.
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Question: I, as a Pakistani Jew, would like to draw your kind attention towards those Pakistanis who intend to convert to Judaism, leaving the religion of their forefathers. Unfortunately, there are no synagogue(s) and no rabbi(s) here. What can be done? Can you advise or help those in this situation?
Without a community or a rabbi conversion is not possible because a convert needs someone to study with and a community to provide structure and support.
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Question: Does Judaism allow couples struggling with infertility to
hire a surrogate mother? What do Jewish ethics say about paying someone to carry another's child to gestation? Are there any limitations on who can act for this purpose?
There has been great debate on the questioin of surrogacy but in the past few years some lenient positions have emerged
If those positions are accepted there is no problem with paying for the surrocacy
There wpuld be hesitancy about using a relative as a surrogate
The biggest question that remains is who is actually the mother of the child
The egg donor or the woman who carries the baby
That is an active debate with no clear resolution
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Question: What can we learn about Israel's vs. America's social protests? The majority of the Israeli public wholeheartedly supported the summer's social protest movement with peaceful large mass rallies nationwide, while in America, there was a lack of positive, peaceful support for the Occupy Wall Street protests.
The Israel protests were non-violent and did not include people getting in the way of small businesses, urinating and defecating in public and other anti-social acts, including carrying anti-Semitic signs.
Also the Israeli protests began with a clearly defined concern - i.e. that the price of most rental partments is more than many people's salary.
None of this was true in the U.S.
In fact, over time, the Israeli protests added issues and lost some focus and the support went down.
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Question: Is it a sin to move a person's casket to another plot in the same cemetery? My mother does not want to be buried between her husband and her father-in-law and, if they move my father over one spot, the problem is solved.
Moving a grave is a very serious matter in Jewish law
it can only be done if the grave is in danger of being desecrated
if the body is being moved to Israel or to a family plot
or if there was a plan prior to burial
also once a grave is vacated no one else may be placed in the same plot
thes rules make this suggestion very problematic
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Question: I am a Christian, and I sent to my Jewish friends 'Shana Tova' greetings by email on the Jewish New Year. One of my friends emailed me back and thanked me for my wishes, and wished me the same good wishes, and also wished me 'Shana Tova'. While I feel honored he wished me 'Shana Tova' knowing I am not a Jew, I want to know if it is acceptable for Jews to wish a non-Jew 'Shana Tova', and if it is a common practice to do so. Is there a particular meaning to this? I have a deep respect for Judaism and I personally feel close to Jews.
Despite the fact that most people call Rosh Hashannah the Jewish New Year
It is the anniversay of the creation of the human being and as such it is the universal new year as the holiday liturgy explicitely says
On this day God decides what kind of year everyone, Jew or gentile will have
As such the greeting was more than appropriate
The actual Jewish New Year is Passover when we were redeemed from slavery in Egypt and became a nation
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Question: I am frustrated with my son who is not motivated with learning Gemara. I try to be a good role model. He is a smart kid and does fine in his secular studies. I feel that he is starting to get turned off from Jewish studies. How far should I push?
Gemara requires a particular type of mind to be completely successful at it
there are many other areas of Jewish study that are worthwhile
Bible, Halakhah, Jewish Thought, etc
The Netziv (Naphtali Zvi Yehudah Berlin had trouble with Gemara as a youth yet grew to be the "last" Rosh Yeshiva of Volozhin
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Question: My girlfriend believes that she is Jewish, but actually only her father was Jewish. She did not commit yet to undergo conversion. Meanwhile, I try to convince her that she needs to go to mikvah every month, but my friend told me that there is no point in her going to mikvah until she is fully Jewish. Please advise. Thank you.
All the Rabbinic organizations should instruct their Rabbis and all Rabbis should include this in their pre-marital counseling sessions that should be mandatory for all couples whose weddings they perform
All Mikvahs should have this material on display
all JCC's and similar organizations should also have such material available and accessible
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Question: My neighbor strongly objects to my planting of a specfic grass type (Zoysia grass) saying that it will eventually overtake his lawn and he does not want Zoysia grass. Is there any Jewish moral reason why I must be considerate of his feelings?
Jewish law requires that any nuisance done on my property be kept at sufficient distance so that it does not negatively impact my neighbor as such a neighbor can ask for consideration in such a case.
The Talmud for example deals with winnowing grain where the chaff will carry to a neighbor's property and requires that reasonable precautions be used to prevent this that would seem to be the precedent in this case.
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Question: What is the Jewish view about killing Osama bin Laden? Should Jews joyously celebrate his death? Assuming he was in fact unarmed should the Seals have taken him prisoner in acccordance with Jewish values?
There is no question in my mind that the killing of bin Laden was more than justified by Jewish law. As a matter of self-defense, he was plotting additional attacks on a regular basis, and with his track record of blood and pain, there was every reason to believe that at least some of those plans would end in the deaths of innocents. Also, having him as a prisoner would be far more dangerous than having him dead, because his imprisonment would attract violent retaliation and particularly kidnappings, with demands that he be set free or that hostages would be killed.
Further, in Jewish tradition, you have examples of people who are killed to serve as an example to others. You find this in the case of the gatherer of twigs who was the first to violate explicit Jewish law in the desert, you find it in the case of Akhan who took from the spoil of Jericho, and you find it in other cases as well. If anybody should serve as a model, UbL was certainly one.
As for the joyous and even raucous celebration, Jewish tradition is unequivocal: "At the fall of your enemy, do not rejoice." There are several reasons why this is true. First, is the scene of people chanting, "U-S-A" really the image you want to be forever associated with this very serious moment? (any taking of life must be serious).
Second, this is not condign justice. bin Laden's death did not in any way equal the suffering that he caused. As such, we have a right and perhaps an obligation to challenge God himself as to why the justice was incomplete, but if we rejoice we lose that challenge. We also lose the impetus for self-reflection towards analyzing how such an individual came to that type of influence in this world and how we can prevent that again.
Finally, engaging in raucous celebration is the first step towards cruelty, particularly since the relatives of the victims were not rejoicing in that fashion. Tragic events as well as joyous events are tests of our moral fiber. Usama bin Laden, as evil as he was, and as much as killing him was appropriate, was still a human being. Raucous celebration just opens the door to the acceptance of revenge and cruelty as appropriate behaviors. That is not something we should want to endorse.
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Question: I have been invited to a ceremonial stone unveiling that I will not be able to attend. I would like to acknowledge the event in some way, but I am not familiar with the acceptable customs and do not want to offend the family in any way. Is it appropriate to send a card or a gift of some kind to the family to acknowledge the event?
It would certainly be appropriate to send a card acknowledging the deceased and the family's loss. This is not really an occasion for gifts.
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Question: If a woman has been in a coma for two years would Jewish Law permit disconnecting her life support in these circumstances? She was not given any other options when she was first admitted to the hospital, was on a respirator and gets her food from IV nutrition, and therefore, her husband feels as though he has no options other than to pull the plug. It has been two years of constant suffering and sadness for both him and her parents. What would Jewish Law say?
While I certainly see the pain and suffering, taking a human life is anathema to Judaism. This person is alive, and if she is unplugged from life support, that would be killing her. As long as the centers of her brain that control respiration are functional, she is still a person. It is in God’s hands whether and when she is to die. The doctors should test whether she has any reaction to noxious stimuli, such as a deep sternum rub, and through use of something called the apnea test whether her breathing centers are functional at all. If both tests are negative, then many would allow her to be declared dead, but if there is a reaction to these tests on her part, then she is still alive and we must always be mindful that human life is infinitely valuable and precious.
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Question: My father is near death, and among many anxieties I'm going through is the feeling of dread at having to arrange the funeral etc. I know this seems trifling considering what my dad's going through, but I'm also terrified of speaking in front of a gathering; I'll have to say something at the funeral...will it be OK if I just say I LOVED MY FATHER VERY MUCH, AND I MISS HIM TERRIBLY, then walk off the dais? Or do I have to mention this and that...Sorry, I'm "Fahklumpt" at the moment.
There is no specific requirement for you to speak, and it's certainly sufficient to say what you suggest. The purpose of a eulogy is to allow people to express the pain of the loss. That does not have to be done by the son or any particular individual, but it should be done by someone or some set of people.
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Karma in Buddhism and Hinduism refers to two different things. The first is the impact on the world by the actions that we do in a spiritual sense. The second is the impact on our own essence, which then translates into whether and how we are reincarnated. Stated that way, these are really not Jewish concepts, though there are some parallels to some mystical ideas that speak about the cosmic consequences of the actions we engage in.
Reincarnation is also not a mainstream Jewish position. So again, except for a small part of the mystical universe, this would have no resonance with Jewish thought.
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Question: Is there a problem accepting a business loan from a close Jewish relative with the understanding that the loan will be paid back with an extemely low interest rate, considering that Jewish law prohibits a Jew from charging another Jew interest.
There is a problem taking interest from a Jew under any circumstances
but there is a way around it called a heter iska
This is a document that must be signed as parft of the loan
there are several models that work
one of the simplest is to agree to pay the lender an amount for record keeping which just happens to be the same as the interest would be if there were interest allowed
absent a document like this no interest can be charged
and even with this document we are charging an administrative fee
not interest
the forms are available online at the Rabbinical Council of America website (I believe) or from your LOR (local Orthodox Rabbi)
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Question: How readily are Jews-by-choice - those who have undergone conversion - accepted to the rabbinical and cantorial schools of their respective denominations? What challenges or restrictions might they face before, during and after their education?
In Orthodoxy there would be no hesitation about accepting a convert into a rabbinical or cantorial school and I know several who have studied, been ordained and served in those positions including at least one who converted with me
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Question: Are there any Jewish laws or ethics that govern salaries in non-profits?
First its a Jewish problem and not just an Orthodox problem for 2 reasons.
one Conservative Judaism requires a Get and at least theoretically the problem can still arise and
second because an Agunah by Orthodox definition will not be able to marry someone who is traditional or marry officially in Israel
On the other hand this should be on the way to being nobody's problem
The Rabbinical Council of America (RCA) some ten years ago accepted and has been promoting a pre-nuptial agreement that has been essentially universally effective in solving the problem
the document is available at the RCA website and if we could get all Rabbis to require its use the problem could be solved in a generation
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Question: If I know that a friend's husband is having an online "fling" - only online - is it my responsibility to tell her, the way I would if I knew about an actual affair? Or is there a difference?
The rules in Jewish Law for such a circumstance (which I do believe is a serious breach of the marital bond) are the following:
Will what you say make a significant difference in the situation (e.g., the wife won't go into denial)
if so;
you must say the least amount necessary to affect the change
you must have no other agenda (e.g., revenge) in doing this
You must be absolutely sure its true
Good luck
this is a tough situation
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Question: A 60-year-old Orthodox Jewish male became ill with pneumonia, requiring mechanical ventilation and cardiopulmonary resuscitation. As a result, he became severely brain damaged and remains in a vegetative state months later. The hospital concluded that further resuscitation attempts (if called for) would be futile and asked the family to sign a "do not resuscitate" order. The family refuses due to their feeling of obligation to preserve life regardless of outcome.
Since there is no hope for recovery for this gentleman, is there any way that a choice not to resuscitate this gentleman could still respect his and his family's religious beliefs? What does Judaism say about such a situation?
Judaism views sanity and mental illness as different depending on the circumstance
The Talmud describes an insane person as one who sleeps in cemeteries, tears his clothes, breaks things without reason
An insane person cannot serve as a witness in a capitol case
that means that someone who does one of these things or anything similar is excluded
An insane person cannot give his wife a divorve
before we declare someone insane in a divorce case he would have to do all of these three things and more, so that we not tie up his wife without a divorce
my point is that sane and insane are not precise terms
what Judaism does is help us find a moral and ethical way to deal with every situation
that makes things more controlled and therefore more sane
but there will always be circumstances where depending how you define it and the definition is not precise there will be insanity in someone's eyes
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Question: A San Francisco man has proposed a ban on circumcision. If such a thing became legal, what would that mean for the Jewish tradition?
The better question is, what does it mean to America (or a piece of America) that it has violated its principles of Freedom of Religion?
What Jews would do depends on the reality that would emerge.
What would be the consequences of doing a circumcision?
How likely is it that one could do it and get away with it?
We do not recognize the government's authority to regulate our religion this way
There are historical parallels (e.g., during the Hadrianic persecutions 132-135 CE) of Jews defying anti-circumcision laws on pain of death from the government.
I hope we don't need to go back to that type of life or anything similar.
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Question: It seems that some people want to live Jewish lives, but not go through the process of converting? Is it OK for a person to practice Jewish religious rituals if he or she is not Jewish?
For example the Talmud says that a gentile cannot keep Sabbath as that ritual is a sign between God and Israel
By the same token intensive study of Torah is also precluded
On the human side of this question I would wonder why someone would do this
If the practices are meaningful consistency would suggest conversion
And if they are not- why bother?
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Question: Former Israeli Prime Minister Ariel Sharon, who has been in a coma from a stroke for five years, is being moved to his ranch in the Negev Desert. How should Jews decide whether to keep family members in similar medical states alive?
It is not our legitimate choice to take someone's life, it is God's
However if someone has indicated that they dont want major efforts to keep them alive in a situation where they are seriously compromised- for example not wanting major surgery if one is in a persistant vegetative state- that is a legitimate decision to make
One can let the desease take its natural course
But the decision must be made by the person themselves while they are competent. It is not anyone else's life to decide on.
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Question: Is plastic (cosmetic) surgery permitted by the Torah? Is there a difference in the Jewish view between reparative and elective surgeries? Does Judaism approve of cosmetic procedures (not life saving, and not physically reconstructive) if it makes the person feel better?
Judaism views the body as sacred and injuring it inappropriately is a serious violation of Jewish law.
However if there is a serious psychological or physical reason that will be helped by cosmetic surgery or reconstructive surgery then it is permitted and even to be encouraged
Vanity would not be sufficient, but helping with a significant psychological concern is acceptable
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Question: Are there any Jewish legal or religious traditions that run counter to celebrating Halloween, traditionally a pagan holiday, but now more or less a secular one?
Traditional authorities are opposed to celebrating this day:
Given its pagan origins;
Given that so many of the themes and images involve magic and supernatural creatures and powers that are troubling for Judaism;
Given that it was a day of historic antisemitism.
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Question: What if someone is experiencing problems at work, such as a hostile work enviroment. Perhaps the employer would rather give an employee a bad time, hoping they'll quit, as opposed to firing them (to avoid paying out unemployment benefits). How does one handle that situation? In this day and age, quiting a job might not be a good thing to do, because the next job might not be just around the corner.
In Jewish law the employer must provide an appropriate work environment. If he is not you could take action against him
A lawyer might be able to help you
Yes the economy is difficult so getting advice from someone who can hear the entire story and all the details is a good idea
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Question: I am a retired military officer who is eligible for burial in Arlington National Cemetery. I would like to be buried in Arlington Cemetery because I believe that it is important to demonstrate that Jews helped defend the US by serving in uniform. However, I understand that there are some Jewish rules (no burial in a mixed-religion cemetery, burial within 24 hours of death) that are not compatible with the procedures for burial in Arlington Cemetery, although there are quite a few Jews buried there. What is the basis for these burial restrictions - custom, tradition, law, etc? Is it a sin for a Jew to be buried in Arlington Cemetery? [NOTE: I was raised in the Conservative tradition, but I am not particularly observant at present]
These laws are a mixture of customs traditions and laws. They are strongly held and violation does take one out the tradition. I live in DC and know that it is all but impossible to be buried in Arlington and keep the traditions, but military aspects such as use of the flag to cover the coffin can be used at a Jewish cemetery that won't violate anything and might meet your need to show respect for youe military service.
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Question: I'm going into the Marines, but I also want to keep Shabbat. How can I do that? What can and can't I do regarding Shabbat pertaining to being a Marine, if I am based in the USA, as well as if I get shipped overseas?
Under the current law the right of return applies to Reform and Conservative converts as well as Orthodox as long as it was done by a Rabbi on the approved list. So the answer is essentially yes.
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Question: Would you say someone of 16-17 years old, who studied Judaism for over a year, and is learning Hebrew is old enough to convert if their parents say they don't mind?
I am the chair of the Rabbinical Council of America's Geirus policies and standards committee. We have converted people who match that profile as long as we are confident that they live in circumstances where they can live an observant lifestyle.
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Question: Is it true that music sung for Shabbat services should not be sung for a concert?
Despite a Rabbinic comment that verses in the Bible should not be used as common songs, many such passages, along with words from the prayers appear regularly in both contemporary Jewish religious music and in the music of past generations. One of the arguments in favor is that this music inspires and draws people to Judaism who might otherwise be estranged. The same is true for the concerts you mention and so most people accept them as fine.
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Question: What is the Jewish faith's belief about afterlife or eternity?
The word Sheol which appears a number of times in the Bible is the ancient Near eastern word for "afterlife"
Also Saul raises the prophet Samuel from the dead in one biblical story. He clearly comes from somewhere.
But the Bible and rabbinic literature offer no clear (or even unclear) picture of the afterlife.
In fact their is a book by an author whose last name is Paull that describes over 100 different portrayals of the afterlife in Jewish literature.
The reason is that our task is to do our work here and make this world as good a place as it can be.
Too much dwelling on the afterlife and we will stop focusing on that task.
As a result Judaism simply promises an afterlife as a guaranteed reward for doing what we can do here to fullfill our task- all the while knowing that a reward waits for us at the end of our days.
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Question: I have been in a committed relationship for three years. While I'm not married and don't plan on getting married soon, my girlfriend and I do have sex. Is this considered ok, or is it going against the law of the Torah?
For traditional Judaism sex is understood to be part of the sanctified relationship of marriage
Sanctity always implies uniqueness, specialness and restriction
Since sex is the most intimate sharing that people can have it was always seen as something that was to be celebrated and enjoyed within the lifetime commitment of marriage
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Question: What are the causes of the disconnect between religious teaching and practice, and ethical personal behavior? How can religious people be influenced to act more ethically?
There is a profound difference between religious observance and real religiosity.
Hopefully, observance moves a person in the direction of spiritual and moral living through its symbols and the underlying reasons for the rituals, but sadly there is no guarantee.
For one who wants to move in that direction observance can be a great help, but one can do things simply from habit and rote.
Rabbinic leaders need to direct their teachings appropriately.
Texts must be chosen that reflect these values as a primary theme, and people need to be moved from their complacency. It is a big job.
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Question: What is the Jewish view on "don't ask, don't tell" and gays serving openly in the U.S. military? Does it matter that gays serve openly in the Israeli military?
I will reveal something in this response that only a few people know.
The military's "Don't Ask Don't Tell" policy was based on an article called "Homosexuality and Halakhah" that appeared in The Journal of Halakha and Contemporary Society in the mid-late 1980's.
The article took the position that in Jewish law there is no such individual as a homosexual (there is no term in Jewish legal literature for "homosexual"). The only thing Judaism has is a Biblical prohibition against homosexual activity. What follows is that an individual who never engages in such activity but only has desires for same gender sex bears no opprobrium in Jewish law and carries no special designation. Further, someone who privately acts on these desires should be made welcome in a synagogue just as many people who do not fullfill all the laws are made comfortable, as long as they do not publically advocate for or display that violation. The article goes on in this way, and the Joint Chiefs of Staff of the US military used it as the basis of the idea that all individuals may serve as long as they do not proclaim themselves publicly as to what they did or thought about in private.
As such the military's current policy in this regard is very much in line with Jewish thought.
The Israeli military follows Israeli law not Halakha or Jewish law, and the two legal systems are not the same.
Oh, by the way, the author of the article used by the Joint Cheifs and the author of this response just might be the same person.
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Question: Alcohol seems to be a part of many Jewish holidays. At Purim we are even commanded to drink so that we can't differentiate between certain characters in Megillat Esther. Is there a Jewish perspective on drugs that would similarly impair our thinking? While some drugs certainly are dangerous to use, many would argue that marijuana - if used in moderation - simply makes the human mind think differently for a period of time, just as a few "l'chaims" do.
First, violating the law is prohibited and use of these drugs is illegal
Second, the culture that surrounds drugs is different than that which surrounds alcohol. People don’t see alcohol as providing new dimensions to their personalities or opening new spiritual vistas- but drugs often come with those types of cultural associations.
Third, if someone needs a drink to loosen up before every party they attend people recognize that they have a problem. Someone who does marijuana that way is considered “cool”. All of that is problematic.
Fourth, I am also troubled by an attitude that one hears frequently that suggests that a person is less than complete if they haven’t experienced drugs. In Jewish thought, human beings were created as the best of God’s works and we shouldn’t need mind altering drugs to be fully human.
Finally, a famous story has Oliver Wendell Holmes, the Supreme Court justice telling of how he “discovered the fundamental truth of the universe” while under the influence of a drug that had been administered to him during surgery. When he woke after the drug’s influence had passed, he discovered from some notes he made while the drug was still having its effect that this essential truth was that the room he was in smelled of turpentine.
Judaism sees our intellect as essential to what makes us human. Taking something that so distorts our minds- that so changes this most basic element of human reality- for fun, is very disturbing in light of how Judaism understands what it means to be human.
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Question: I get very frustrated when members of my Jewish community say they don't have time to be involved in the Federation or synagogue or other organizations because they're too busy with their job and/or family. We're all busy with the personal aspects of our lives, but some of us make time to be leaders in the Jewish community because we want to see it flourish. What is reasonable to expect from people in the Jewish community in terms of volunteering their time and resources?
In Jewish law there exists an expectation that people will donate at least 10% of their income (but no more than 20% - so that they not weaken their economic standing and therefore not be able to contribute again in the same way) each year to charity
There is also an expectation that people will involve themselves in personal service to others without specifying a precise measurement of what that entails.
As a general rule Jewish law leaves the choice of recipient of one's acts of kindness up to the donor
However in Jewish ethical literature (in some sources in Midrash) the Rabbis are highly critical of anyone who goes about pursuing his or her self-centered pursuits and does not involve himself or herself while the community struggles with its problems and issues
A person with ethical sensibilities should be drawn to help when the community calls and we should be able to expect at least some positive response to that call from everyone.
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Question: If G-d is omnipotent, why doesn't He clarify for us which religion is correct, once and for all, to stop religious wars?
If God removed any doubt concerning religious truth, He removes our free will ability to choose and, almost by definition, makes us less than human because the essence of our uniquely human capacities and dignity is our ability to make ethical choices.
In that vein religious strife is an indication that many humans continue to make the wrong moral choice.
Also. I don't think Judaism sees itself as the only path to a meaningful life. A righteous gentile has a share in the world to come in Jewish teaching.
As such people should certainly be free to follow there own religious tradition as long as they respect others and grant them the same right.
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Question: Why is there not more modern resistance to the idea that the Talmud, written by rabbis, carries the same authority as the Torah, given by God at Mt. Sinai?
There are a couple of premises in what you write that I don't share. First, there has been resistance to the authority of the Talmud and to the rabbis who are cited in it from the days when those rabbis lived until today. For example, the Sadducees and the Karaites did not see them as authoritative. Similarly, the Reform movement today also does not see them as authoritative, and many in the Conservative movement are far more willing than I would be to change what they have said.
Second, even in the Orthodox community, the authority of the Talmud is different. The Bible does not include debates concerning its legal pronouncements. There are hundreds, if not thousands, of debates in the Talmud, and decisions have been reached over the centuries by later scholars as to which opinion to follow. But some of those decisions have still not been made and are at the root of different rabbinical or communal positions to this day. So in that sense, it is not as authoritative. In fact, in the discussions of why no one can argue with a final decision of the Talmud, the reason given is because later generations agreed that it was closer to the source of the tradition, and that therefore, we would not argue with it. But there is nothing in the Halachik process that precludes such an argument absent that agreement. Therefore, in traditional circles, where the Talmud provides settled law, it is seen as authoritative. On the other hand, the Bible is always seen as authoritative without any further analysis, discussion or historic process.
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Question: Can Israel be both a democracy and a Jewish state?
Is the US a democracy? you could say "yes", but you could also say its actually a republic or a representative democracy.
Whether you like them or not, the Tea Party Movement has a significant following that generally thinks the US government has become undemocratic in some ways.
So too, is England a democracy?
Yes. But it has a state religion, though it is very accomodating to other religions.
Now for Israel.
There are many forms of democracy that can coexist with Israel as a Jewish and a democratic state.
Voting, civil rights, free speech, freedom of religious worship, freedom of assembly etc.
But there are some forms that are incompatible, e.g. no state religion.
If you can define what you mean and what you want included in a democratic state the answer should follow fairly easily
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Question: My reform family, in efforts to make sure that our 40 closest relatives can make it to our Passover seder, for the past few years has held the seder on the closest convenient date. This year, the "first night" seder at my house will be on Saturday following the Monday that is everyone else's first night.
Is there anything in Jewish law that says this is a wrong/bad practice?
From an Orthodox/traditional perspective what you suggest is problematic. The celebration is done not to accomodate family, but, instead to bring one's family into the community of Israel by celebrating Judaism's founding event on the same day that Jews everywhere celebrate it. Having a Pesah experience when convenient does not create that sense of national solidarity that comes from sharing the same moment together with the entire community.
In addition, when convenience becomes the critical factor many important traditions and practices may be discarded or modified beyond recognition, and their impact may consequently be seriously attenuated. One of the tests as to whether something is truly valuable to us is our willingness to go to great lengths to make it happen.
Finally, Judaism has a concept of sacred time that suggests that there is a spifritual reality to the universe that is different on holy days. That sanctity requires that the celebration occur on the day except in some very rare and exceptional cases. That picture of time and its sacred seasons would not sustain approaching the question as you have
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Question: Are you bound to make amends to a wronged person, who does not know that you wronged them, directly to that individual or with G-d only?
If they were hurt by you, you must tell them what you have done directly and apologize. Then repent to God
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Question: There is so much debate today in Israel on conversions to Judaism. What are the basic requirements for conversion? How does this differ for Orthodox, Conservative and Reform?
From an Orthodox perspective you need to see yourself as a Jew and not as part of any other religion. You need to know how to be observant on a day-to-day basis and to be observant in that way.
I would suggest you resubmit your question here so a Reform and Conservative Rabbi can answer for their movements, but in general, the Orthodox community requires significantly more practice of traditional observance than the other movements. For more on the Orthodox perspective, see the website of the Rabbinical Council of America.
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Question: As the son of a Pole who lost touch with his Jewish roots and married a non-Jewish woman, I went through the conversion process, including Brit Milah, Mikvah, and Beit Din, to reclaim that heritage. Why, as a person who prays daily, with regard to Aliyah, etc. am I considered less than a Jew in the eyes of those I view as family?
Once someone converts they are fully Jewish and no one should look down on him or her. There are many prohibitions against treating a convert any other way
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