blog | about | contact | origins | help
 
All Questions Answered by
Rabbi Aaron Gaber

Question: I am planning a wedding that will just be a few friends and some immediate family members—basically, the Jewish equivalent of eloping. I come from a physically abusive home (with my mother), and I have not spoken to my mother in years (my parents divorced when I was very young, My father and I have a good relationship, and he also does not speak with my mother). My mother and I have intermittent contact sometimes about obtaining paperwork, but that’s the limit of our interactions. While I do not want to invite this person to my wedding, I worry about the long term consequences of such a choice. What are the Jewish considerations and obligations when making such a decision?
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

Question: Is it ok to think about another woman while having sex with my wife? Thank you.
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

Question: Children are commanded to honor their parents. How are parents commanded to treat their children? Is a parent who seeks to destroy their child through abuse still considered a parent? {Administrator's Note: Related questions about honoring parents are found on JVO at: http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=546 http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=132 http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=160 http://www.jewishvaluesonline.org/question.php?id=1188]
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

Question: My question is on the fear of G-d. I have always found this concept difficult to understand. For example I try to keep as many of the mitzvoth as I can because I want to and I am a follower of Judaism for the same reason not because of fear. I do not believe that G-d will destroy me if I do not follow a commandment. I believe in G-d and respect him, but I do not fear him. Is there a way to better understand this concept?
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

Question: I am a non-denominationally affiliated Jew. I am not frum, but I am constantly working on observing more mitzvot and find myself enjoying different things about Reform, Conservative, and Orthodox communities. I want to know what the stance would be on me wearing a tallit katan. Up until this point I have not because I feel like it would be misrepresenting myself (I already wear a kippah and that alone often leads people to think i'm Hareidi even). It is not that I am offended by being seen as Orthodox, quite the opposite - I don't think I deserve to be viewed as that observant when I am not. I do not want to do something akin to chillul Hashem (or rather.... hillul frum communities? if that makes sense?) if I were ever to do something not-frum while donning them. However on the other hand I hold a firm belief that the mitzvot are not dependent on each other, and that every little step is progress. I also think that if a mitzvah or custom is going to make me better and has a meaningful significance to me, then it is appropriate to observe it. What are your thoughts, either on the points I mentioned, or new points all together in regards to a more "liberal" Jew wearing a tallit katan? Thank you for your time and knowledge.
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

Question: I recently received an inquiry about serving as a sperm donor for an infertile couple. Is it a Mitzvah to do so? What do Jewish traditions, thought, and values advise on this matter?
Click here to view all of the answers for this question.

LATEST BLOGS  view all blog entries

“To Preserve, Perform and Fulfill” – Writing Your Living Torah

Posted on 08/18/2019 by Jacob Schwartz in Beliefs and Practices
BS”D “To Preserve, Perform and Fulfill” – Writing Your Living Torah Not all of us consider...

A Somber Re-Watching of Don't Mess with the Zohan - and Why Israel Advocacy is Failing

Posted on 08/18/2019 by Moshe Daniel Levine in Beliefs and Practices
There is a long list of reasons as to why Don't Mess With The Zohan probably wouldn’t have been made in 2019. The...

Dancing in a Circle

Posted on 08/18/2019 by Marcia Goldlist in Beliefs and Practices
In the summer there tends to be a lot of weddings. And at Jewish weddings there is often at least one traditional hora or...

Learning About Judaism From Non-Jews

Posted on 08/13/2019 by Rivkah Lambert Adler in Beliefs and Practices
My husband tells the story about how, some years ago, immediately following the High Holidays, a Jewish woman made an...

The Ancient Jewish Debate About the Nature of Jewishness

Posted on 08/12/2019 by Moshe Daniel Levine in Beliefs and Practices
Jewish identity is confusing. Are we a religion, nationality, race, ethnicity or some mixture of all the above? This...

Righting an Injustice

Posted on 08/12/2019 by Marcia Goldlist in Beliefs and Practices
I love when things happen that mimic something in the Bible. It makes the story come alive and show its relevance. Here is a...
JVO Panel  of Scholars
           
 
NOW ADD JVO CONTENT TO
YOUR WEBSITE A FREE SERVICE
 
Click here for instructions to embed the
JVO "JEW Q's" widget on your website.
 
Jewish Values Online

Home | Search For Answers | Ask A Question | About | Contact Us | OriginsUseful Links | Blog | Help | Site Map

Copyright 2014 all rights reserved. Jewish Values Online
 
N O T I C E
THE VIEWS EXPRESSED IN ANSWERS PROVIDED HEREIN ARE THOSE OF THE INDIVIDUAL JVO PANEL MEMBERS, AND DO NOT
NECESSARILY REFLECT OR REPRESENT THE VIEWS OF THE ORTHODOX, CONSERVATIVE OR REFORM MOVEMENTS, RESPECTIVELY.